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Redefining Marriage

A huge majority of Indians appear to be stuck in some 19th century mindset when it comes to marriage and sex.

I do not know why that is so. Whether it was the British or the Moghuls who made Indians into such boring conservatives or it is a legacy of the Hindu religion.

At any rate, it's time to change the rules of the game.

No more 'arranged marriages' between a guy and a girl who do not even know each other. No more parents 'deciding.' No more idiotic 'horoscope matching.' No more looking at caste equations. No more dowry negotiations.

I propose that marriage be made 'temporary' rather then its present 'permanent' form. Let us have 'stations' in life at various intervals where you can choose to 'get off' the bus or train if you so wish.

Let every married couple have the 'option' and the right to leave a marriage at the 1-year interval, then at the 2-year, 3-year, and 5-year intervals. If people stick to each other for 5 years, then they are probably perfectly 'compatible' with each other and they will stick with each other for life.

Otherwise, there is no need for people to forcibly stay in a suffocating relationship.

This idea of 'polyamory' seems interesting. It's great to see people in the West 'experimenting' with various forms of relationships rather then just sticking to some 'traditional' definition of 'marriage.'

When will this occur in India?

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